A woman has welcomed a daughter into the world, however, the name her and her husband had decided on just wasn't the perfect fit. A few days after the birth, she was regretting the choice.
A Reddit post showcased a woman that explained she and her husband had decided on the name Louisa before the birth. While announcing the news to family, her "husband was getting cold feet" about the name. She "went along with" it.
Before signing the birth certificate, they changed the name, opting for Lucia instead.
Now at 3 and a half months, this mother is still regretting it.
“I have been wavering on our second daughter’s name since she has been born. I just don’t love the sound of Lucia and fear saddling with the burden of correcting pronunciation.”
She had hopes the feeling of regret would disappear but "it's only gotten worse."
She says "It's become an obsession," and majority of her waking moments are "spent regretting {her} choice."
She's been searching for something that "has a lot of meaning," and is now leaning towards Juliette, a combination of her late mother's name, Judy Elliott.
While the mother loves this name and wants to finalise the decision, she has become afraid her family will think the couple are "totally ridiculous" for changing it a third time.
“It feels like a catch-22, and I’m going to be uncomfortable with either decision,” she said.
The decision between leaving the name Lucia and "not love it" or change it and feel embarrassed, the mum feels "they will think we are treating our baby like an object."
She has said her husband is "totally supportive" but was initially apprehensive about the name.
The mother also isn't sure if she should announce the name change online. “Do I make a post on social media?” she admitted feeling “so exposed and embarrassed”.
“A big part of me just wants to stick with her name and be done with it - it will grow into her once she develops a distinct personality.”
“My husband thinks if the only thing stopping the change is fear of what other people may think, it’s something we should push through.”
Many supports have flooded through on Reddit, with users sympathetic to the mother.
“Parenting involves a lot of trial and error!” one person wrote.
Others suggested to begin calling their daughter Juliette and “see how that fits and feels”.
“If it feels right, then go through with the name change."
Others said she should bite the bullet. “Just do it. Your daughter won't know.”
“There’s no shame in it. I think people will be less weirded out by it than you’d think.”
“You and your husband have to live with the name, not other people, so don't worry about what they think. Do what feels right to you and what makes you both happy.”
Some other users joked that the couple should "gaslight" friends and family into thinking her name was always Juliette.
“Be delusional,” they laughed.
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